The First Kiss: Setting the Tone for Pleasure and Trust

The very first kiss atop a woman’s vulva can be the most exquisite of all possible kisses.

One that quite literally takes her breath away.

Treat it as an event.

Something to be savored, like that first sip of a fine wine.

Linger in the moment. Take the time to fully appreciate her with all your senses before you dive in.

Use gentle, teasing touches to heighten anticipation:

• Run your fingers slowly through her pubic hair.

• Kiss all around her genital area.

• Breathe warmly over her vulva.

• Blow ever so lightly on her clitoral head.

• Kiss her through her panties.

• Delicately pull her panties to the side to reveal her wet vulva.

Caution: Never blow directly into her vagina as though trying to fill it with air. This is dangerous.

Before you begin, remind her of the 3 assurances:

1. Going down on her turns you on

2. There’s no rush

3. You love her scent

Tease her until she’s on the brink of madness.

Build the anticipation so that when the first kiss finally comes, it’s almost unbearable in its intensity.

Start with a long, slow, tender lick from the very bottom to the very top of her vulva

• Pause briefly with your tongue resting on her frenulum, then continue ever so lightly over the head to her front commissure.

• Press gently on her front commissure with the tip of your tongue.

• While doing this, place a finger lightly against her perineum (the soft expanse of skin just below the vaginal entrance).

When you lick the full span of her vaginal entrance from top to bottom, rest your hand on her mons pubis and nudge it gently toward her abdomen.

This will stretch the skin and slightly tighten the entrance, allowing you to more fully encompass her sensitive inner labia as you lick.

At the end of the first kiss, let your tongue lie flat along the length of her vaginal entrance. Just resting there, letting her feel the warmth and weight of it.

Instead of the standard approach, try this: 

Before the first kiss, take hold of her upper thighs and gently pivot her legs upward so that only her butt rests on the bed. This completely exposes her vulva, giving you an uninhibited view and access.

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